How do you live your life?
Do you believe you are the cause of everything in your life, or do you think what happens to you is dependent on those people and circumstances around you?
What you believe makes all the difference in how you live your life. And once you're aware of this, you can change it to work for you, not against you.
In last weeks video blog I talked about the 7 keys to getting empowered. Now I'd like to let you in on a secret...
All Success In Life Is Underpinned By The Key Principle Of Cause And Effect.
Please watch the video and let me explain. It will take less than 4 minutes and could change the way you view your life for the better.....
A lot of us live a large proportion of our lives at 'effect'; responding to the whims, desires or emotional states of others. We are thus thrown about on the ocean of life like jetsam on the sea.
Alternatively, living at 'cause' means that you are decisive about creating what you want in life. You see the world as a place of constant opportunities, which you are in a position to try out. And if certain paths do not unfold as you would like, then you take action to change the path to somewhere else. You also take responsibility for all the difficult things in life, even if it seems like the fault of others. At the very least, you take responsibility for how you react to those difficulties, be they people or events.
If you are at 'effect', there is always a reason why life has not worked out and there is always someone or something at fault, blocking you from what you want to achieve. This leads to a sense of powerlessness and despondency about life and you lament ‘if only he or she were different' or 'why is it that this always happens to me.’ You are, in effect, a victim of circumstances.
The truth is that there is no way to prove how much choice we have in determining our future. However, there is ample evidence to show that those people who take on the attitude of responsiblility for everything that happens in life, are also the people that are fulfilled and successful.
Being at 'cause' also helps us release much of the emotional burden that we place on ourselves in regard to our responsibilities for others. Indeed, we must always do the best we can by others, but ultimately, they themselves are responsible for how they choose to respond to anything we do and say. If a friend is unhappy despite our best efforts to cheer him up, we do not need to hold the emotional stress of thinking that we must do more.
One of the axioms that I live my life by comes from the field of NLP. And that is ‘there is no failure, only feedback’. This means that everything that goes wrong in life is a disguised teaching in some way. If only to say – ‘don’t do that again!’ It is a great way to ensure that you are living at cause.